Hello! Wake-Up!!

In today's fast paced life , I wonder how many youngster's are really 'in love'. Looking back over the years , my first love (and the last one) was the person I married, am still married to and hopefully will be married to until I die. That was the way in my day and age. And I am not that old ! Now, I believe the rules are pretty different. Children seem to be dating a lot more and some seem to continue doing that all their life. I think, they need a reality check. "Hello! Wake up! There is no Mr(s) . Perfect".

The list of ,'Wants' for today's youngsters , male and female, could probably run into a few pages. On the other hand, the list of ,'Gives' is unfortunately very limited. There is absolutely no balance. The modern man, willing to settle down , wants his partner to be a 'complete' woman. By that he means, she should be pretty, earning a good salary, should be a good cook , a good mother , an excellent host (to his friends) , a good companion and to top all this,he wants to be the 'man' of the house. He needs a robot not a wife.

It's not any different for the woman either. She expects her man to be able to cook a meal, look after the kids when necessary, cleaning house should be a dual responsibility, expensive holidays abroad (a must) and must not go crazy if he finds her having a meal with a male colleague. She must to be allowed to have late nights, just like him. Equality, you see!!

I do not disagree with either of them . But what do they have to offer in return. A chaotic life , I think. Each comes and goes as and when required. They meet on weekends and food is usually a take away. In this confusion ,the children suffer. So in come 'the in-laws'. Nothing could please them more than taking care of their grand children. I know of a couple , whose parents took turns coming down to look after the child because she refused to give up her job. And living in different cities did not make it easier on the old parents.

I, however also know of couples who have made this formula work. They have wonderful children and they lead full , normal lives. Here I think it's important to mention that the woman did a lot more than the man (especially true in Indian houses). I choose to be a stay at home mom. My home is a sanctuary for me, my child and my busy husband. My husband often says that he waits to get home, away from the madness at his work place. That's my reward. Our home is a wonderful place full of happiness and joy and peace. I work damn hard to keep it that way.